Obviously the title is a misnomer because no one can be happy all times. However, there are some things you can do to maximize happiness over the long run.
1) Don’t Stress Yourself Out For An Employer.
You can’t be happy all the time but you can be unhappy and stressed out at all times which a lot of people are.
Back when I was 18, I used to work a job for $150 a month.
Even though I was making such little money, I was extremely stressed for the company’s work for days at a time. When you start working at a corporate, you are told everything is “urgent” and “has been escalated” and needs to get done “by end of day”.
Eventually I learned that according to the company everything is urgent, which means nothing is urgent, and for just $150 a month, I have no business stressing myself out so the company can make its shareholders a slightly higher profit.
Look, no matter who you are – the “company” does not care about you. Mr. Company Man is a thing of the past.
You are just a line of a spreadsheet and can be deleted for whatever reason. You say something they don’t like on social media, or your department is not performing well (collective punishment), or just to cut costs and give the share price a boost.
You have been hired to do your job and work 8 hours a day. Do that.
You don’t need to stress yourself out because “the client wants something tomorrow”. That’s something the boss needs to stress out about, not you. If the client wants something tomorrow – it’s the company’s problem, not yours.
Life Advice:
Do not try to be the overperformer at your job. The overperformer works 2x as hard only to make 20% more. Complete joke.
Do the absolute minimum at your job (so you don’t get fired). Perform just enough to not be seen as a slacker.
Use the time you freed up to start any WiFi Money business and get out of the job cage.
When you’re making more than your job – do not quit. Engineer your layoff so you get paid a severance.
2) Don’t Postpone Happiness.
Ambitious people (most LMM readers) will relate to this:
I will feel happy when I have XYZ amount of money.
I will feel happy when I can lift XYZ amount of weight.
I will feel happy when I look like XYZ.
I will feel happy when I am done with XYZ project.
You have to understand that there’s no real “end game” to life and that all you have is today.
Life is a series of todays.
If you postpone feeling happy until you meet some arbitrary goal, I will promise you that when you do, the happiness will only last 1 day. Then you’ll set a new goal and keep pushing.
When I was 21 I said I’ll be happy when I have a million bucks. I hit that at 23/24 and the high lasted… one day. Then the goal was $2M, and so on and so forth. The goalpost will keep moving.
You have to be better than you were yesterday. That is enough. You don’t need to wait until XYZ goal is met just to feel happy.
Postponing being happy will literally make you suicidal if you do it too much. You will work, get results, but never feel like you have enough.
Look, I’m not saying you should get lazy and complacent. You need to have goals and push through to meet them, but do it while being calm and happy.
If you do the work, you will get there. Do the work with happiness instead of doing it with frustration.
For example, if you want to lose weight, you got to eat less calories than you burn. You will lose weight as long as you consistently do that.
You can eat less calories with peace, or you can do it with frustration (checking the scale 5 times a day and getting pissed off if it’s not moving fast enough).
The days will go by regardless and if you do the work you will get your results. Might as well enjoy the journey.
3) Avoid AIDS situations.
A young man asked Charlie Munger, the business partner of Warren Buffet “What advice do you have for someone like me to succeed in life?”
He famously replied: “Don’t do cocaine. Don’t race trains to the track. And avoid all AIDS situations.”
You don’t want to get into “AIDS situations” which I describe as doing things that give you problems that go on for the rest of your life.
This means things like:
Driving motorbikes. I hate motorbikes. I’ve lost 3 friends to bike accidents and know many who broke their bones from a simple fall. When you drive a car, you are in a metal box that protects you. On a bike, you fall and break things in your body.
Not wearing condoms during sex. Unless you want to have a kid, wear a condom. Plenty of women will “forget” to take the pill when they want to get you into the child support trap. Always wear a condom and flush it down the toilet (especially if rich because many women will try to impregnate themselves with it later).
Getting unnecessary back surgery. Many people regret getting back surgery and would have been much better off with barbell training to actually make your back stronger. Doctors don’t know shit about strength training and give people bad advice like “don’t squat, don’t deadlift, sit on your ass like a cripple”. If you have a bad back, you want to make it stronger. Click the link in this paragraph, you will thank me for it.
Catching a false rape case. While not nearly as life ruining as the previous 3 items, you will waste a few good years of life and a lot of money if you catch a fake rape case. You will probably also lose your job. If you’re going to date women in the modern social environment, make sure you take necessary precautions to avoid a fake rape case.
4) Avoid Major Life Mistakes.
Similar to #3 but applies to the overall trajectory of your life. If you make any of these mistakes, you are setting yourself up for years and years of pain.
Keep in good health. No one cares how much you can lift but you should be reasonably fit and strong. If you can’t even squat or deadlift 1.5x your own weight on the bar, you are in poor health. If your body fat percentage is high, you are in bad health. You can do everything right but if you are in poor health, you will live an unhappy life.
Don’t marry the wrong woman. One of the worst disasters that happen to men of today is divorce. You lose half your money, you have to pay child support, and quite frankly, you wasted all the time and resource investment you made into the woman. You get nothing out of it and your children suffer. When you marry, make sure it’s the right woman and not some washed up hoe that has “changed”. Marriage is not a joke.
Don’t get addicted to drugs. You see it all the time as you get older. Smart people with lots of potential wasting themselves because they got addicted to heroin or meth or some other drug. As you get older, many people from “back in the day” will die of overdoses, drunk driving accidents, etc. (yes alcohol is also a drug).
Don’t waste your 20s. Your 20s are the MOST IMPORTANT decade of your life. They form the base for your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. You will never get this decade back. You will never have as much freedom, time, and energy again. As you get older responsibilities increase, the body doesn’t react as well to training, harder to start an online business because less time to grind…
Don’t try to become the company man. Like I said before, the company does not care about you. The last thing you want is to be 45 and then get replaced by some AI or get your job outsourced. It happens and it’s not pretty. The “career path” is dead. Build a business and work for yourself. Be your own man instead of being a company’s man.
Don’t get into debt. Debt is slavery. Don’t take huge loans to buy a degree with no payoff or to buy consumer goods. No one cares what car you drive. If you can only afford a cheap car, then get a cheap car. If you can’t afford a big house, then get a small house. These guys out there with stuff they can’t afford don’t realize that they are literal slaves working for the profits of banks.
5) Get Your Money and Finances in Order.
If you want an unhappy life, get yourself money problems.
I can guarantee that if you’re struggling to make next month’s rent, you are going to be very stressed and unhappy all the time.
The haters say money is the root of all evil. If you think so, give all your money to me.
The truth is that money does buy a lot of happiness and can absolutely change your life. Often an extra $5k a month from the internet is the difference between a shit life and a happy fun life.
6) Spend Less Time Under Artificial Light and Get Out of The City Often.
This just means live a healthy life which means spending time in the sun, not sleeping at 4 am, and not spending your time chatting with some broad from Bumble past midnight.
If all you do is spend your day in a room staring at computers… you will feel sad and depressed. Humans did not evolve to work deskjobs.
Your body was meant to move and be in nature. This is why natural settings are inherently calming.
Cities are depressing environments in the long run because they are unnatural. You meet lots of people but care about none of them. Everything is commercial and you barely get any fresh clean air.
One of the best hobbies you can pick up is trekking/hiking. Just go to a mountain and climb it. Or find a forest and go through it (marked trails only).
When you trek in nature, you realize what modern city life has stolen from you. Of course we cannot live in the forest anymore, so 1-2 treks a month is a very good mood booster. You come back with lots of fresh energy and rejuvenation.
7) Don’t Consume Outrage on the News and Social Media.
The main job of the news is to try to get you pissed off. Something happening in Gaza or Israel or Ukraine and why that’s your problem.
Look, I do not care about Israel or Palestine or Russia or Ukraine. Or whatever else is the new trendy thing to support or hate.
- I live thousands of kilometers away from these wars.
- I got plenty of stuff going on in my own life.
- I did not create these problems in the world.
- I don’t have any control over the outcome of these situations.
- If I had to care, there are plenty of poor and downtrodden people in my own country/locality. I would help them far before I’d help a random foreigner in a war torn country.
This doesn’t mean I hate Israel or Palestine or Russia or Ukraine. I just don’t care.
Don’t waste your time stressing about things you have 0 control over. If you can control something, control it. If you can’t, then just ignore it.
8) Don’t Let The Crazy Leftists Tell You That You Are Crazy.
There is nothing wrong with being Hindu.
There is nothing wrong with being a man.
There is nothing wrong with being white.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to marry a virgin woman.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to eat bugs to save the environment.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to get injected by experimental “vaccines”.
You are not crazy. These guys are.
These absolutely crazy people will try to make you feel ashamed of following your culture, being the gender god gave you, and for the actions that your ancestors supposedly did.
They will try to gaslight you into making poor choices and feel ashamed of being yourself.
They will try to get you to feel like you’re the only one who thinks the way you do while everyone else supports homosexuality, masking, transgenders, marrying hoes, etc.
You go to India, China, Russia, etc. (i.e. more than half of the world population) and say things like “It is perfectly normal for a guy to want a dick in his ass” and people will either look at you with extreme disgust or laugh in your face.
Trust me – these leftist types are crazy. They have no brain and just repeat what they are programmed to.
9) Look Good and Dress Well.
When you look good and dress well, you get treated well by everyone. People trust you more and you get more opportunities in life.
If you don’t believe me, consider a simple example. If you have to hand over your bags to someone, would you rather ask the homeless looking guy or a well groomed and well dressed guy? Obviously the latter.
Good looks and good clothes create trust. Your life will be much better if people treated you well no matter where you went.
Losers think looks are entirely genetic but you can do a lot to look better.
- Get below 15% body fat.
- Fix your posture. Stop slouching.
- Add some muscle to your frame.
- Groom yourself well. Good haircut and a well kept beard.
- Take care of your teeth, skin, etc.
When you look great, you get treated great. When you get treated great, you feel great.
Read: How to Look More Attractive as a Man
10) Get a Good Woman by Your Side.
Have a good woman by your side that takes care of all your needs (sexual and otherwise). You want to not have to think about things like cleaning, getting sex, and clean homemade food so you can focus on economic things.
In a functional household the man earns the bread and butter and the woman supports the man so he can do his work with focus and in the best possible way. Most successful men had a good and supportive woman by their side.
You cannot live your entire life off of casual dating and hookups. After a point, you need stability.
A good woman will make your life infinitely better and easier. It is essential to a good life.
That’s all for today.
Hope that helps.
Until next time.
Your man,
Harsh Strongman
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