What is the difference between a someone who’s successful and someone who’s been “trying” for years?
I’m not talking about the guys who try and fail, I mean the guys who are always “trying” but don’t have any real successes or failures to show for it.
The difference is mindset.
Take any endavour that’s worthy of a man to pursue success in:
- Building a business to achieve financial independence
- Getting in good physical health so you can age gracefully and live long
- Getting good with women so you can rise above the matriarchy, sleep with the women of your choice, and eventually marry well and have children
- Literally anything you really care about
The difference between the guys who get results (success OR failure) and the guys who are perpetually “trying” is MINDSET.
Mindset is the most important thing. More important than any other resource or ability.
The Mindset of Losers
I kind of want to make money from the internet. I will start a blog (or anything else) and see what happens.
It’s been 3 days since I started and I’ve published 3 articles. I am not making any money yet. Internet business must be a scam. I wrote 3 articles and I’m still not gaining a reader base.
I am going to focus on my job. My boss sucks but I get paid my wage. Lately my co-worker has not been working as hard as before so this is my opportunity to work even harder and outshine him. This way I will be sure to get that 4% pay raise… even though the co-worker who’s working much less hard only ends up making like $7k a year less than me. It’s a shame that the top employee works twice as much only to get a slightly bigger bonus.
I think the girl from 3 desks away likes me. She’s 10kg overweight and a feminist. She’s also 28. But that’s my only option so I will delude myself into thinking that she’s the girl of my dreams.
Every few weeks I get a jolt of motivation so I publish one or two more articles before I quit again since no one is reading me. I’ve written 7 posts now. I am so important that everyone should be dropping everything to read what I’m writing, despite me literally being a wage slave making chicken shit $150k a year or less.
I am an expert with women even though I barely get dates and the “love of my life” is a 28 year old fresh out of the hoe phase who is only into me because she needs to lock in a provider male before time runs out.
I have also been going to the gym for years. Despite training for “years” I look like someone who barely lifts. My stomach isn’t even flat. Even though “years” of training are more than enough to get very close to my genetic potential. I just skip workouts whenever I feel like it, don’t follow a proper program, and eat whatever I want.
I like to think I am superior to others despite being objectively mediocre in every metric of life. I have no success with women, my stomach is not flat and I have no muscles, and I am literally dependent on an employer to pay me a wage to survive.
Despite all of this, I know everything about everything. I could run the country better than the government. I would get a good girl if only these man whore “alpha males” (who I think are losers as a coping mechanism) would stop fucking them and dumping them.
Don’t they realize that they are ruining it for everyone else, where that everyone else is me, since I know I will have to pick from the bottom of the barrel – the leftovers?
Man I hate my job. I feel like my soul is being sucked out. But what options do I have? I’ve been “trying” these online businesses for years and none of them work. They are all scams and all the people doing it are lying.
They are successful because of privilege. They are fitter because they have better genetics.
I mean look at how unfair life is. My wife and I are just renting a house and the owner is an old co-worker. He’s the same guy who didn’t even work that hard at the job. I out-competed him and got a bigger bonus. And yet he has a rental property. Privilege. Why does my wife have a funny expression when she looks at him though? Weird.
The Mindset of Winners
At the moment I am a wage slave. I hate it and I want a way out. When I go online I see a ton of people making money from the internet. They have financial and location independence and I want the same thing. Instead of blaming someone else for my situation, I am going to do exactly what they advise so I can get similar results.
(Read: What I would do if I was a broke 20 year old)
I am going to commit at least 1 full year to this. And I will work on it for at least 4 hours a day without giving up. If it still doesn’t work after a year, I will try a different business. I will eventually have 1 success and that’s all I need.
I’ve been sandbagging my employer so I’m able to get a lot of my side business work done at my job itself. My co-worker gets dumped with more work but he sees this as an opportunity to make a slightly bigger bonus. Eh well.
After work, I immediately hit the gym. Since I am so busy otherwise, I am only able to train 3 days a week. I offset this by maintaining a clean high protein diet so over the long run, I still get very good results.
I go out on dates twice a week. I’m trying to get good with women so the very obvious metric is whether I’m able to get girls in my bed and retain the ones I like without giving them commitment. Of course I aim for the younger girls, not the almost 30 year old hags who are desperate to get married and will try to speedrun the relationship.
Whoop looks like I already made my first $1 online. It’s only been 2 months but I worked every single day to get it. Very soon this business will outpace the income from my job. And I can do it from anywhere I want.
The fat on my body is also coming off and I can see more and more muscularity over time. I am looking much better. My consistency is paying off.
My skills with women are also improving and I’m getting more successful which attracts even more women. The percentage of times I am able to get a girl to get naked for me has tremendously increased. There are random women I merely cold approached. As I look better now, I can scale dating by using dating apps, since I know looks are overwhelmingly valued there.
There are many people with more opportunities in life than me but I do the best with what I have. Over time, the results have accumulated and I’m in a great place in life. The losers think I must have been born with “good genetics” and “privilege” but the reality is that I worked for every little bit of it.
Oh I just had my first $1M year. I’ll invest this in a rental property. Let’s look for a tenant.
Oh it’s the loser from my old job. He’s become fatter and he’s lost his hair. What was his name again? The agent says he’s here to rent the house.
The woman looks familiar. I remember now – Samiksha from the office. I remember sleeping with her before she gained a lot of weight. Didn’t she text me “hellow” a few months ago? I didn’t respond because I’m not into fatties. She needs to stop giving me IOIs because I’m not interested in old fat chicks.
The Comparison
If you look at the mindset of success and the mindset of failure, you will notice a few clear differences:
| Success mindset | Failure mindset |
| Commits to long term effort | Wants instant results or “loses motivation” |
| Plans to try something else if the current thing doesn’t work | “If I fail, then everything is a scam and everyone is lying to me” |
| Takes accountability of his situation and works to improve it. For example, he eats clean, lifts, and makes time for his health. | Completely unaccountable for anything and finds someone else to blame for everything. Skips workouts, eats crap, and blames his genetics. |
| Puts his priorities above everything else. Works on his business during his job hours. Dumps women he doesn’t like. | Loyal to his employer. Works for that bonus. Supplicates to women (which ironically results in them being turned off). |
| Dates many women before deciding to marry. Marries a great woman who’s young and fertile. | Marries the first girl who likes him back – an ex-hoe who’s 28 year old or older who looks at him as her ticket out before it’s too late. He deludes himself into thinking this is the woman of his dreams. |
| Works like a dog in the first few years to secure his financial and location freedom. | Works like a dog for his entire life for bonuses and small pay raises. Even his home is owned by someone else. |
| Tries his best to make the most of his life. | Thinks others are more successful because of luck and privilege. |
| Copies what other successful people are doing. Follows their advice. | Thinks anyone who’s free and more successful than him is a scammer or a liar. After all, being free and rich is impossible unless you are born rich. |
| Has successes and failures. | Has neither successes nor failures… because he never tries anything. |
Equal Opportunity, Unequal Results
As the boys at BowTiedBull say, this is the best time to be alive because everyone has equal opportunity. (This does not mean equal results.)
Anyone can learn to code, or learn copywriting, or web design, or build an X account, or run ads… and they could be the “river troll or barbie”, or black or white, or Chinese or Indian. They would be successful if they are good, and will fail if they suck at what they’re doing.
All the information you need to get big and strong and fit is available on the internet. If you don’t want to sit and research, you could just spend a few bucks to buy a program from an expert and follow it. I recommend Alexander Cortes’s PPL workout.
There’s tons of great dating advice available to you, and most normal women today can be fucked for the cost of a meal.
But hey, none of this means equal results. It just means equal opportunity.
The losers will complain how everyone’s a scammer, how they have bad genetics, and how all girls are whores (if they are all whores why can’t you get laid?).
It’s for the best really. Not everyone has the brains or the determination to be successful. We need our Starbucks baristas, our paper pushers, and our 35 year old childless corporate drones, and the dudes who marry them.
Thank you for your sacrifice.
With love,
Harsh Strongman
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