A ton of guys today grow up being taught that they are always supposed to help women by doing any physical work for them.
They are taught that they are weak and lesser men if they let a woman carry her own luggage, or let her carry groceries, or let her drive while you chill in the passenger seat.
The message from the gynocentric society we live in is that you are always supposed to sacrifice yourself for women.
If she’s drunk, it’s your responsibility to get her home safely (even if you barely know her), if she gets in a fight you have to do the fighting for her, if she is carrying something heavy you have to take it off her hands.
Basically men from a young age are taught to be beta males supplicating and acting like little servants to women. Some men are even told that they should default to taking the woman’s side in any argument between a male and a female.
Let me correct the record:
You are not her servant, donkey, or peon. Let her do some work by herself.
If you have a wife or a girlfriend, she is there to enjoy life with you. You are not supposed to become her baggage carrier, manual worker, or pack mule.
Let her do things while you relax. It will not make you any less of a man regardless of what gynocentric society taught you.
In practical terms, this means:
- Let her carry her own luggage
- Let her pay for dates every once in a while
- Let her give you massages and help you relax
- Let her carry the groceries if the bags aren’t super heavy
- Let her drive you around sometimes while you relax and chill in the passenger seat
- Let her do the household chores by herself (that’s her job) [P.S. If your first reaction to “that’s her job” was slight anger or frustration, you are a beta male. You just don’t know it.]
Do not have this weird slavish mindset where you think you’re always supposed to be helping her and making her life easier.
Let the woman do things. Let her work while you relax. Have no apologies for her having to work.
If you think that will make you any less of a man, you have been brainwashed by society into becoming a “useful” pack mule.
You owe nothing to women who are not your mother, sister, daughter, or wife.
If a woman hasn’t given you anything, you owe nothing to her.
Let’s say you go out on a date with a girl and she proceeds to get totally drunk and becomes obnoxious. Beta males will tell you that it’s your responsibility to drop her home safely.
The reality is that you can just leave her and go home (or pick up a different woman). You owe nothing to her and have zero obligation to make sure she is safe and sound. Being abandoned like this will make her behave better next time should you choose to see her again.
The only time I drop a woman home is when I know I’m going to sleep with her when I get there. Otherwise she can book her own cab.
Why would I waste my time and money on a woman I’m not going to sleep with? It makes zero sense yet so many men are so foolish that they will drop her home and look after her.
Likewise, you have no obligation to save a damsel in distress.
A few years ago, news came out that a German man was blinded and disfigured defending a girl at a bar from a Moroccan Muslim who was trying to lace her drink with a substance.
Think about this.
If a woman agrees to go out on a date with an unknown foreigner from a culture that has zero respect for women whom she met on a dating app and then proceeds to drink with him, that’s a choice that she’s making.
Any consequences that come from that choice are hers to bear. You have no obligation to get into a physical street fight to protect her.
If you see someone lacing her drink, at best you inform the bar staff so they can deal with it. You don’t start punching the guy on her behalf. You are not her bodyguard.
This German guy ruined his life because of gynocentric programming. The damsel he saved probably visited him once in the hospital… and likely brought another guy with her.
Ironically, acting like an eager servant makes women respect you less.
The natural order of things is that woman serves man. When you flip the natural hierarchy and become her servant, she starts to see herself as superior to you and begins to look down you.
This is what happens to a lot of men in relationships. You slowly erode away your natural authority by doing everything for her.
You go from the desirable man she serves and pleases day and night to a groveling piece of garbage who needs to trade chores for sex.
The way to prevent this from happening is to let her do her things by herself and let her serve you and free up your time by doing your tasks too.
Let the girl drive you around. Let her pick up the clothes you drop on the floor and put them in the washing machine. Let her carry her own things.
She serves you. Not the other way around. Maintain the natural order of things and you will always be golden.
There are things you provide to her as a man. Financial stability, emotional management, protection from danger, etc. Doing chores and physical labor for her is not on the list.
Hope that helps.
Until next time.
Your man,
Harsh Strongman
