Note: This article talks about the institution of marriage, not the modern concept of marriage under the law. Under no circumstance should you sign a “marriage contract” because as a man you get nothing by involving the government into your personal life. If you decide to get a legal marriage, learn how to protect yourself by reading this piece.
This article needs to be published because I see a lot of young men who want to marry but do not understand what marriage is about.
The institution of marriage is about legacy and children. It has historically always been this way.
It is two families who come together to share resources and DNA to create children who will bear the family name and identity into the future.
Marriage is NOT primarily about sex, love, companionship, or whatever else might have been told it’s about (I’ve even heard that marriage is about “emotional support” from weak men).
Now, while all of those things are great and significantly contribute towards making a marriage work in the long run, they are not what marriage is primarily about.
To put it in a different way, marriage and love have different origins. Marriage is a concept created by society to make things function well (inheritance, succession, genetic purity, etc.) while love is a biological concept created by millions of years of selection pressure (if you do not have the desire to love/be loved, you are less likely to have children and stick around to ensure their survival).
If you are a man who is marrying because you feel:
- Lonely
- Sexually frustrated
- Need “emotional support” (lol)
You are doing it wrong. You are making a huge mistake.
If you work on yourself (become more interesting, build a better body, and improve your game), you can get sex and company for free (zero commitment required).
And you can get it from multiple women not just one. If the goal is to get more sex, this is the easiest time in the world to do that.
Marriage has different goals from just sex.
Marriage is about children, legacy, and securing the future for your lineage. This is always what the institution of marriage existed for.
Kings had wives and they had concubines. They served different purposes.
The wives came from marriage and their purpose of the union was to secure alliances and to produce heirs.
The concubines existed purely for entertainment and sexual uses.
The men of today are surrounded by women of concubine material who they try to turn into wife material. This does not work.
It’s the difference between buying a house vs crashing at a hostel for a day.
When you buy a house, you are far more serious and consider many factors since it’s a big long term decision.
When you’re just looking for a place to crash, the only thing that matters is accessibility and how comfortable the bed is.
Imagine if someone is buying a house and his primary reason for doing it is “the bed is comfortable and I can sleep in it whenever I want”. It doesn’t make sense. It would be a big mistake.
When you look for a wife, there are many long term factors you need to consider since the goal is to make children:
- DNA Quality (height, health, IQ, etc.)
- Her nature (which will ensure that the marriage doesn’t become a headache)
- Long term suitability (matching interests, motherly instincts, etc.)
- Family background
- Fertility/age (you don’t want to marry the overweight 30 year old)
- Purity, virginity, etc. (body counts matter because past behaviour is an indication of future behaviour)
- A ton of other factors
On the other hand if you’re just looking for sex, there’s only a few criteria you care about:
- Does she put out? (i.e. how easy would it be to fuck her)
- Sexual health (you don’t want to HIV)
Most men are so beta and devoid of understanding that they end up marrying and having children with the latter. Most men marry the first woman who likes them back.
They have put in zero work into themselves and have done no self-improvement so they are so sexually starved that they delude themselves into thinking that the first women who likes them back is “the girl of my dreams”.
If they spend 90 days doing Live Intentionally they’d immediately be 10x more attractive to women because of the physical changes alone.
But doing the work is hard and most look for easy solutions.
And marrying the first woman who likes you back is easy. Deluding yourself that a 28 year old 5/10 chubby woman with a corporate job is the “love of your life” is easy. Lying to yourself that her past doesn’t matter is easy.
Working on yourself and playing the game to your advantage is hard.
But hey, the results are worth it.
Not just for yourself, but also for your children.
Because that’s what marriage is about – CHILDREN.
– Harsh Strongman
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