Women are creatures of emotion and they like to constantly be bombarded with different emotions. If you disagree with this, you are either naive or inexperienced with women (usually both).
All women want to live a life full of different kinds of emotions. It gives their life vibrancy and color.
In their understanding, feeling emotions adds “meaning” and “spice” to life without which you would be nothing more than a boring old robot.
Emotions here include not just “positive” emotions like happiness, joy, and pleasure, but also “negative” emotions like anger, jealousy, heartbreak, sadness, and longing.
Men do not think this way. Masculine men want power and dominance over others to feel alive. It’s hardwired in the male DNA and is one of the things that makes the masculine different from the feminine.
This is why women (and feminine men) say things like “I wish I had a life like in [insert sitcom]” while no masculine man ever wants to be a loser sitcom character sitting with losers and serving coffee for a living.
Women watch sitcoms and want to be a sitcom character because they want to feel all those emotions of friendship, betrayal, romances, heartbreaks, the nights of crying after a breakup, new love, etc.
Feeling emotions makes women “feel alive”.
This is extremely obvious to men who have a lot of experience with women (who are nodding in agreement) while beta males and inexperienced guys struggle to grasp it.
When women are in a safe and stable environment, they get bored. They WANT to feel the richer emotions of wonder, mystique, new romance, heartbreak, etc.
When a woman says she wants to “find herself”, in womanese she is saying “I am so fucking bored of this shit”.
If a woman tells you she needs to “find herself” while breaking up with you, she is saying that you are stable and boring and she is going to find a man for herself who is more exciting.
If she says she needs to “find herself” in general, it means she’s bored of her life situation (where she lives, her career, etc.) and wants to change things to be more exciting.
You can bet money that she is considering moving to a different city or going on a long vacation or becoming a Bumble whore or whatever else is in her power to feel some fucking excitement.
She wants to be out of her routine. She wants UNPREDICTABLILTY.
There is a man in Thailand who lives in a cave. He is neither attractive nor does he have money. Yet he fucks more women than most players.
All he does is “chat them up” before taking them to his cave (his words).
Female tourists and backpackers will literally go to his cave to have sex with him.
He was so successful that many local beta males got jealous and tried to get him evicted from his cave (another reminder to work hard in silence because the masses hate success).
Why do women do things like sleep with a guy in a cave in a foreign country?
Because it’s EXCITING.
It makes them feel so many different emotions they will not easily get to feel elsewhere.
What are the defining characteristics of a beta male? Passivity, stability, and that they are BORING.
The caveman makes the women feel wild and alive. It makes women want to know “what he’s like”.
Meanwhile the average beta male who offers “stability and trust” (the words themselves are boring), she already knows what being around him is like… slow and boring. PREDICTABLE.
Women hate boredom and predictability (the opposite of exciting). That’s why they never date beta males (except when they are 28 and older and it’s time to find a provider to marry before time runs out).
In her heart, she wants something exciting, she wants to feel happy and sad and in love and betrayed and made up with.
She wants all the highs of romance, the pleasures of multiple orgasms, and the heartbreak.
She wants to ride the rollercoaster of emotion.
That’s what “finding herself” means to her. To get on an emotional rollercoaster and feel alive.
Again, the things I’m saying here are very obvious to anyone with lots of experience with women. If this was new to you, read these pieces of mine (they will open your eyes):
- How to Make Women Obsess Over You
- Do You Need Looks And Money to Get Women?
- How to Get a Friends With Benefits (FWB) Relationship (it’s too soon for you to get an FWB but read it to know what women crave)
- Stop Doing Women Favors You Won’t Do For Men
- Worried About Women Having a Past? Read This.
- Indian Men Are Delusional About Dating – What You Guys Need to Hear (If you are an Indian reader, reading this piece is MANDATORY)
Also remember that reading is only 10% of the game.
What I mean by that is that if you actually want to understand women and how they work, you need lots of experience with them.
If the number of women you’ve slept with is in the single digits, your opinions on dating and women are exactly worth that… nothing.
It would be like a guy who hasn’t even made his first million teaching others how to make money. You would laugh in his face.
Read the pieces but more importantly, learn game and take action. If you aren’t sleeping with women, you aren’t “learning”, you are merely reading.
– Harsh Strongman
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