1) Set the right first impression.
This one is very important and colors the rest of your relationship with the girl. You must set the right anchor impression so her imagination works in your favor.
For example, let’s say you dress well and talk like a confident bro. If you don’t reply to her texts, what is she going to assume?
She’s going to think that you must be busy out with or talking to another girl. This works in your favor.
On the other hand, if you dress like a nerd and talk like a nerd and look like a nerd, what will she think when you don’t pick up her phone? She thinks “He must be playing video games or masturbating to porn”. It works against you.
This is why it’s so important to hit the gym and build an attractive body. It changes the assumptions that are set about you.
If you can’t afford to buy a program, follow my free programs for hypertrophy. Build a good body that sets the right first impression.
Make sure you don’t talk like a nerd.
Listen to this clip below to learn how to speak with power:
With girls you want to tease them and have fun with them.
Nerds and men with low social skills become overly serious around women and kill the vibe. You want to be the fun chill guy not the intense buzzkill guy when you’re around young women.
Learn to flirt with girls and learn how to vibe with a chick. It’s all about teasing her and building sexual tension.
You will never impress a girl by showing her how serious you are about life because ironically that turns women off.
Women want guys that are natural successes. Effortless. They are successful without trying. They want the natural alpha not someone who learned to be an alpha. It doesn’t work like that in the real world but women are too stupid to get it (their biological wiring is obsolete).
When you show that you are super serious, you destroy the illusion of effortlessness and become much less attractive. You look like a nerd. And girls don’t get their panties wet for nerds.
2) Don’t be needy. Girls like to chase.
When you talk to girls, don’t seem needy and desperate. Be aloof and don’t give her extra attention.
Example, you’re in a group and she’s the hot girl. Most guys will give her extra attention. They will say hello to her first and look at her more often. They will always laugh at her jokes and give her this special status she has not earned.
None of them manage to sleep with her because they get friendzoned. In fact, she will think of them as beneath her because they’ve put her on a pedestal.
What you should do is the opposite. Say hello to her fat friend and some others in the group before you say hello to her. Don’t give her any extra attention. Don’t look at her a lot.
Do not scream neediness and desperation. You are not tying to impress her. You are always surrounded by girls. She is not special to you.
Remember an important truth: Girls like to chase. She wants to go after the free bird and catch him and put him in her cage. She does not want the wounded and needy bird that walks up to her hoping to be “let into” the cage.
She will have zero interest in your if you just come into her lap for no effort. Then you’re just another chump. She’s used to this.
Someone who doesn’t give her special attention and does not care is immediately interesting. It is high rank behaviour.
3) Don’t blurt things. Keep the mystery alive.
“Do not BLURT things, it destroys mystery.”
You do not want to let the girl form an accurate assessment of your day to day life.
There should always be room for her to let her use her imagination to fill in the details. She shouldn’t be able to guess what you are always up to.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say you are a tennis player.
Girl: “I play tennis.”
Bad response: “Oh wow I also play tennis. I’ve been playing for X years blah blah blah”
Good response: “Nice. I already guessed because you have the body of a tennis player.” (Notice that we’re also sexualizing the conversation in a subtle way)
Then later on a different date you can hint that you also play tennis by telling her a story about it, “Sorry I’m late, I woke up early to play some tennis and then fell asleep in the evening…”
What will happen if you do this?
She will think “Oh he plays tennis. Why didn’t he tell me before? It must be because it’s no big deal for him. He has so much going on.“
(If she asks why didn’t you tell me you play tennis before, just say “you didn’t ask” and laugh.)
If you’re doing it well, she will have no idea what you’re up to… and her imagination is going to make her think you’re probably some cool shit.
4) Always be subtle and imply things, don’t say things overtly.
Imply things about you without saying them out loud.
“I am rich”
“I am exciting”
“All the girls want to suck my dick”
Saying things like this out loud makes people think you’re an arrogant low social skills idiot.
You have to be subtle and imply these things. Don’t worry, her imagination will do the rest.
For example, I got lost in a forest barely got out before the sun went down. I’ll tell girls the story and that establishes that I’m into adventure.
The effect is far stronger than just saying “I’m an adventurous guy”. It makes them wonder all the other kinds of stuff you’ve done and gets her excited.
This is where actually being interesting and living a great life is so helpful with women. You have plenty of stories to tell and activities to involve her in.
Anyone who’s a regular reader knows I’ve nearly lost my life doing various things I enjoy multiples times. I just life a good life I enjoy and that alone makes me more interesting than 99% of dudes out there.
Instead of saying “I’m a cool guy” just invite her to do some fun stuff with you. Back in the day I used to invite girls to barbecue with me and the bros all the time.
We grill some meat and paneer every week, girls or no girls.
Girls loved joining in because it was so exciting and fun. We would tell them we grilled every week but we would not invite them each week.
When they were not invited, they all knew that we were having fun with other girls and next time they went out with me, they’d try to please me as much as possible in every way because they wanted to be kept around.
If she did a good job, she would be invited again.
The message is simple: I am the source of fun, adventure, and excitement. I have plenty of girls who want me and I don’t need you. If you make me happy – sexually and otherwise, you will get to partake in the fun and adventure with me. If you don’t make me happy, a different girl will take the prize instead of you.
Very crass to say it out loud so you have to keep it subtle. Trust me she will understand it. (Girls are very good at getting the subliminal message since it’s their primary mode of communication. Overt communication is the realm of autists and men.).
5) Don’t be available all the time. Don’t reply to her texts right away. Don’t text her all day. Let her imagination fill in the details.
This works extremely well especially if you did the other things right like setting the right first impression.
Listen, I’m going to be super crass here: NO PROPER MAN has the time to be whatsapping a 19 year old girl all day.
I know the PUA writers will do anything for sex and many of these dorks will hang out at shopping malls to try to pick up girls. Maybe these types of people can spend 5 hours Whatsapping a girl for no reason, but no proper man has the time for it.
I’ve got too much going on and nobody who reads a website like this has time to waste chatting with a girl at 1 am. It’s a waste of time.
The girls like it because they are young and bored and have nothing to do and enjoy the attention but you get nothing from it.
Only use chat apps to schedule dates with girls. Do not use them to have long conversations lasting multiple hours with girls. It is very easy to get involved in their emotional drama and waste 2 hours on some banal nonsense in their life.
Just reply to them once or twice a day to “keep the interaction going” but don’t get sucked into it.
You never want to reply to her right away unless it’s to schedule a date.
Don’t worry you won’t lose the girl to being unavailable. They will assume you must be busy doing some fun stuff or out with another woman… and it will only make them more insecure and desperate.
Something you can try doing that always worked well for me is to schedule 2 dates on Friday, and then flake on one of them.
Tell them 9pm Friday, but then don’t message them at all after they agree. They will contact you ~1 hour before to confirm and then you can just postpone one of them to the next day.
Send them a picture of you doing something cool and tell her to meet you tomorrow.
It will drive her insane because very few guys flake on girls. Usually girls do all the flaking and guys suffer from it.
You are showing that you are so abundant and have so much going on that you forgot about a date with her and it was no big deal for you whatsoever. Her mind will drive her insane.
Every night she’s not with you, she will know that you’re fucking a different girl or doing some other cool shit.
The next time you see her, she will be on her A game. She will try to please you in every way possible the next chance she gets.
Look, every girl has one great fear in life… finding the perfect guy and then losing him to a different girl.
She WILL try her best to compete. You will have the best sex of your life with a woman who’s afraid that you’ll leave her. It’s called DREAD GAME.
From personal experience: Indian women will go berserk from it and do some real degrading things with you just to give you great orgasms. Basically they have fewer “appealing” options since most Indian men are such beta chumps. They can’t afford to lose a great exciting guy.
This is why I always tell people… the more conservative the culture, the sluttier the girls are in private if you can get them there.
6) Fuck her good.
Give her great orgasms and she’ll keep coming back again and again. Combine that with dread game and she’s yours for good.
Dread game can actually work too well and she might try to see you every day. Good problem to have but don’t see her every day because too much familiarity kills mystery.
Once a week is enough and you should have a nice rotation going for yourself when you’re young. Extreme sexual abundance is something every man needs to experience once in his life. It will change his entire perspective and he will never simp for anyone ever again.
I’ve said this before but I’ll repeat:
YOU NEED TO LEARN GAME.
If you don’t know where to start, here are two of the best resources:
- Read The Book of Pook (Old book written before texting and online dating were a thing. Covers mostly mindset stuff. Life changing read for many – including myself.)
- Get Seduction Bible (Best modern resource on the subject and regularly updated. I highly recommend this.)
Learning game has to be a priority. Otherwise you just become a rich guy with a fat nagging wife, and we all know how that turns out. (<— Read this for an exciting story about a billionaire whose life was ruined because his obese wife said he raped her.)
The good part is that unlike learning many other things in life, learning game is not hard or grueling. It’s a lot of fun and you will get a lot of pleasure (literally) in the process.
– Harsh Strongman
