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The Anchor Impression: How to Get People to Think What You Want Them to Think


Let me start with a small story that I read a few years ago from a book whose name I can’t remember (feel free to let me know):

There was once a professor and a classroom full of students.

The professor divided the class into two groups, each member of each group was given a sheet of paper, and the paper read:

The First Group: “There’s an old car I’d like to sell. It runs well, but not too well – it will need some repairs. I’ve asked a few buyers, and I’ve been quoted $150,000, $165,000 and $140,000 by three prospective buyers.”

The Second Group: “There’s an old car I’d like to sell. It runs well, but not too well – it will need some repairs. I’ve asked a few buyers, and I’ve been quoted $650, $800 and $450 by three prospective buyers.”

The students were then asked to place their own bids for the car. The students had to bid what they thought was the “true worth” of the car.

The first group bid their prices, some bid $100,000, some bid over a million, but most were around the $150,000 range.

The second group also bid, and their bids ranged from $300 to $2,000, but mostly around the former.

This brings up an interesting concept: anchoring.

Anchoring is a cognitive bias where an individual relies too heavily on an initial piece of information offered (known as the “anchor”) when making decisions.

In the above story, the people were presented with almost no information about the car – the only difference was the original bid amounts given to them.

And predictably, the answers were based on the original bid amounts – even though using other peoples bids to value an asset you want is completely irrational.

Now, this concept of “anchoring” or relying heavily on an initial piece of information offered applies outside of auction houses – it applies to every person you meet and know.

“If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.”

People will make assumptions about you based on your appearance, personality, and language.

Consider an example – you meet someone well dressed – a suit, well groomed, you automatically make some assumptions.

When you meet someone dressed like a homeless person and poorly groomed, you automatically make some assumptions.

If you behave like an extrovert, people will assume you have lots of friends.

If you behave like an introvert, people will assume you’re a loner.

If you speak with an excellent command over the language you’re speaking, people will assume you’re well educated. Some might even think you have a very high IQ.

If you behave like a gentleman, people will believe you are a gentleman.

The human mind has evolved in a way to try and judge the interiors of anything purely by the way it looks. It’s evolved as a survival strategy.

The blue turned out to be the lightest, and the red one is the heaviest.

This is also why kings and dictators wore something markedly different from the rest of the population’s clothing – usually a crown.

And also why modern-day militaries tend to be strict about uniforms.

Now, I’m not saying that you should wear a suit or a blazer every time you go out – all I’m saying is that you need to be intentional about how you present yourself.

What do your clothes and behavior have to say about you?

There are situations where you want to present yourself as smart as a whip, attentive as an eagle, and there are situations where you want to present yourself to be dumb as an idiot.

The average guy has the average guy look – T-shirt and jeans and a cheap watch, so if you dress like that, people will assume you’re an average guy.

Now, when you want people to assume you’re an average guy (such as when you’re already rich), you put on a t-shirt and jeans and slap on a cheap watch.

An interesting thing I read is that lawyers will make their clients wear thick nerd glasses to make them look as un-menacing and wimpy as possible, especially when they’re defending the guy from rather extreme charges such as robberies, assaults or homicide.

“Those glasses are influencing the jury, trying to make them think they’re Boy Scouts or something.”

You can take the same strategy to other situations as well, such as job interviews – use glasses to present yourself as more intelligent.

If you want to make people think you’re richer than you are, or poorer than you are, you need to behave and dress a certain way too.

And the effort you put into tailoring the first impression will pay off in case you mess up later – the first impression lasts really long.

If someone thinks you’re smart within 5 minutes of meeting you, you’ll have to act dumb 100x longer for him to change his mind. Sometimes, he still won’t be convinced.

(This is also why fixing a bad first impression unless you really have to is a waste of time – you’re much better off meeting new people and doing it right from the get-go)

“Gurus” go through this phenomenon that they captivate people so deeply that they can say any dumb shit they want and people will interpret it to be a profound, intelligent insight.

This way they can say some of the dumbest of things and still stay on the top – because peoples perceptions are how they interpret their realities.

Everyone likes to think that they’re independent thinkers who won’t be affected by bias of any kind, but we’re all influenced (heavily) by our “realities”.

People who preach that you should focus on what’s inside, not outside are usually also the same people who buy and use tons to makeup and cosmetics (or are just ugly and trying to self-rationalize).

While they might be right, that in the long run, what’s inside does matter more than what’s on the outside, they miss out on the fact that no matter how great a product is, bad salesmanship = bankruptcy.

Let’s reiterate:

Bad salesmanship = bankruptcy.

So remember – be intentional about your perception – because perceptions will become people’s reality.

Until Next Time.

Your man,

Harsh Strongman


  1. Great article. A while back, I was lucky enough to work closely with a self made millionaire. This guy taught me so much and I’m very thankful for the lessons. When he was meeting clients, he would roll up in a Bentley, wearing an expensive suit. The dude had gravitas. He would get a facial every week and even had minor plastic surgery done. He told me that it was, as you said, to leave a good impression on his clients.

    But I also found it interesting how he dressed and behaved outside of work. He had a different car for leisure time, a decent jeep but nothing compared to the Bentley. He’d wear jeans and a t shirt. He would make himself as average as possible basically. He’d go to fast food joints. The only thing that would give him away was when he’d whip out the gold card!

    He would dress and act normal because it made him less of a target for robbers, gold diggers and psychopaths. He had nothing to prove to random people on the street, so wouldn’t even attempt to impress them. Quite the contrary in fact.

    The lesson: only care about what people think when it is going to give you some sort of advantage. You should absolutely care what your clients think about you! You should care about what your family and the people in your immediate community think about you. But I get the impression that many people want to be seen as “cool” for no reason. They just want random people to envy them, basically. This is meaningless vanity, and may attract the attention of a robber or psycho.

    • Hahaha a winner for sure, and great observation – most people don’t notice the intention behind the contrast.

      Most people want to be famous – a sign of a low IQ. Being famous only brings problems – people trying to “show you who’s boss”. Bad idea. Much better to be rich and anonymous!

  2. I have not read the book but heard concept of anchoring in a podcast about a book thinking fast and slow if i remember correctly

    • Could be, but I haven’t read that book either, so the book I’m referring to is some other one.

      I have a hunch it’s “what I wish I knew when I was 20” by Tina Seelig, but I’m not sure.

      • Daniel Kahneman (Nobel Prize winner, the only one who supported by Nassim Taleb) is professor/psychologist who coined the term. He has explained clearly in his book.

        PS: Anchoring is just one of his renowned “research” field.

  3. the book is influence by Robert cialdini. but could also be in thinking fast and slow. its in a few books and Farnham street blog have probably spoke about it before.


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