How to Talk to Women on Dates PART 2: Leading The Date to Sex (The Subtext You Want to Maintain)

Continued from part 1.

Note: If you’re sleeping around with random girls, make sure you’ve read How to Avoid a False Rape Accusation. A few simple precautions can save you a lot of trouble on the off chance that things go south.

Once you’ve built basic comfort with the girl, you want her to build sexual and emotional interest in you.

But you want to do it in female communication i.e. using implications and subtexts.

If you talk like an autist and say “I am a fun and adventurous high value male and you should give in to your desires to have sex with me”, it won’t have the desired effect to say the least.

You have to say it without actually saying it. You have to imply it.

Men who do not get this say awkward things on dates like “girls want me” or “I’ve dated X number of women” and other dumb shit like that which turn women off.

It reduces your value because it shows that you think sleeping with women is an achievement i.e. for you it’s a big deal.

The moment she thinks that her having sex with you is a big deal for you, her attraction levels will go down hard and she will try to get maximum investment from you [more dates, more commitment, time, etc.] before she will agree to do it.

This is why it’s so important to maintain the right subtext in your conversations and behavior.

The Subtext You Want to Maintain Throughout The Date

Basically you want to talk to her (and appear and behave) in a way that conveys that:

1. You are a high value male
2. You are fun and adventurous
3. That tons of women want you
4. It is normal for women to sleep with you
5. That you have slept with many women before her
6. That it’s natural for her to touch you and natural for you to touch her
7. That you are non-judgmental towards women wanting sex (with you or anyone else)
8. That you are used to women wanting you and do not consider it to be anything special
9. That you know that this date is going to lead to sex and you are 100% ok with it (it’s not a big deal for you)
10. That things on this date are “just happening” and that it’s ok to go along with it because it’s fun and natural

You get the point.

You want her to comfortably let her exercise her desire to get fucked by you without her feeling like a slut in any way.

It is more than just what you say.

You do not want to throw out information about yourself like an arrogant prick. You need to stimulate her imagination so she thinks what you want her to think.

There’s way more to this than just what you say.

What you look like (muscularity, body language, clothing sense, etc.) and how you sound (your manner of speaking) and a bunch of other things play a role but they are beyond the scope of this series. Read Traits Women Find Attractive.

There are other things too like how easily you break the touch barrier, whether you’re comfortable escalating the date physically (from putting your arm around her to kissing her neck), etc. but again – this series is purely about the spoken words so I will not cover all of those here.

I mention this only because if you just say “the right words” without having the right vibe, flirty tone, easygoing personality, etc. it will look fake/tryhard-ish and will backfire. You have been warned.

How to communicate with subtext

As far as what you say is concerned, you need to imply things and/or refer to them indirectly instead of saying it directly.

Instead of saying “I am adventurous”, tell girls about an adventure you were in.

Tell them a story or two that establishes that you are adventurous. If you don’t have any stories, go live life instead of being a boring nerd and you’ll have some.

Here are some examples:

• The story of how I got lost in a forest
• A solo trip where you did something fun (e.g. your experience with shooting guns in Thailand)
• Some interesting thing you took part in (e.g. a car race, or rappelling, or boxing match, or whatever)

Make the story fun and don’t seem like a tryhard. For example, if you’re talking about shooting guns in Thailand, make the story come up naturally.

Let’s say she says you have nice arms.

Say “thanks, they’re lethal weapons. Like guns. Have you ever shot a gun?”

“No, have you?”

“Yes. I was in Thailand for a bit and tried out all the guns at a range. The recoil is no joke.” [and here you can use your hand to show recoil on your shoulder]

“Wow. Tell me more.”

“Do you want to feel recoil on your shoulder?”

She will say yes (they always do).

Tell her you’re going to keep your hand on her front shoulder/chest and jolt it. She will say yes. Then jolt her shoulder a bit “to show her recoil” (not too hard). This breaks the body touch barrier (one thing to touch her hands, another to touch her chest).

“Wow you shook up. You are lightweight. Try doing it to me”

Put her hand on your chest and have her jolt you (she gets to touch your rock hard chest).

Do you see what we just did?

You established that you are fun and adventitious and you’ve also gotten to touching each other.

Establish that you are in high demand from other girls.

You want to have conversation that establish the other items in the subtext.

Ask her about her worst and best date. Tell her yours. Tell her about a girl that stalked you for months.

This establishes that you are used to being around girls, do not consider them that important, and that you are so high value that women are stalking you.

You are speaking in the female mode of communication. She will understand (trust me). It will make her think “This guy is so much fun and other girls want him. Therefore I must have him.”

Keep everything lighthearted and do not say anything that will make her think that you judge girls for being “loose”. Do the opposite. Make it EASY for her to sleep with you.

Adding sexual touches

After you’ve built some comfort with the girl and taken her to a second location (like a beach or a park or wherever). You’ve at this point built enough comfort with her and held hands with her and kept your arm around her.

But nothing sexual has happened yet. At this point you should be clear that she likes you and is looking for more things to take place.

Tell her another story that leads to you touching her. The one I’ve used many times is the story of me holding a rabbit. If you’ve ever held a rabbit, you’d know that the thing has a lot of fluff on it (it squishes in a lot) and that it has a very strong heartbeat that you can feel all over your hands.

Again the lead the conversation to this topic. There are lots of options. One of them is just “you like dogs or cats?”, and you can say you like rabbits.

Tell her about how you held a rabbit and hold her thigh as you do. Stimulate the rabbit’s heartbeat on her thigh. Touching her thigh and holding it is a highly sexual touch. It will turn her on.

If she does not appear uncomfortable, it means she likes you and that your advances are very welcome (she wants to get fucked by you).

If she appears uncomfortable, you are unlikely to sleep with her on that date (could be anything – maybe she doesn’t find you attractive, or maybe she just isn’t sexually excited enough, or you didn’t build enough comfort with her, or whatever). No big deal.

Basically how she reacts to your touches will tell you everything about how the date is going.

You should keep escalating the date if things are going how you want them to go.

All of this communicates that you know that this date is going to lead to sex and you are 100% ok with it. And that because things are “just happening”, she can go along with it without feeling like a slut.

“I want to kiss you”

You need to find some privacy like a secluded spot that you walk to. If a lot of touching has already taken place, she is expecting you to kiss her.

Do not swoop in to kiss her. It makes it awkward if you fail and she doesn’t want to kiss you.

Just look into her eyes and say “You look good. I want to kiss you.”. Pause for a bit and see her reaction. If she is into it, go for it (if you did everything else right, the chances of you being refused are very low).

Give her a good kiss and if you can find some privacy, kiss her for a good 5-10 minutes (use long French kisses). Touch her waist and chest if you can.

If you can find quite a bit of privacy (e.g. your car) you can also finger her a bit. All girls want to be fingered in public. ESPECIALLY INDIAN GIRLS.

Have her touch your erection. Take her hand and guide it on your crotch and have her feel your hard dick from your jeans. If she’s willing, guide her hands inside your pants and have her grab your dick.

If a girl touches the skin of your dick, sex is guaranteed happen. You would have to really mess things up badly to prevent sex from taking place. You can drive her to your place or her place depending on which you both prefer and fuck her.

All of this is a part of “things just happened”.

Note: The better you fuck her, the more likely she is to return to you for more sex without any commitment.

Plausible Deniability

If you did not get to finger her or French kiss her for a bit but she still seems interested, you should invite her to your place with plausible deniability.

Again, girls want to get fucked but they don’t want to be judged. This is why they say “not looking for hookups” on dating app bios. Everyone knows they’re on the app for a hookup, but they want plausible deniability.

Don’t say “let’s take this to my place” because that means she’s agreeing to a request for sex. There’s no plausible deniability there and she can be slut shamed for saying yes (do not underestimate the judgement factor with women).

Always give her an excuse to come to your place:

• Do you want to try [insert wine or drink]? I have a bottle at my place. I think you’ll like it.
• It’s very hot here. Let’s chill at my place? I have AC and we can order ice cream or something.

Basically, find an excuse for her to say yes without the risk of getting judged by anyone.

She is a woman and she’s spoken in female communication all her life. She knows that going to your place means sex. But it lets her say yes without having her risk getting shamed.

Once she is at your place, you can kiss her more. And that will of course lead to more touching and sexual things, and then sex.

Note: If you’re sleeping around with random girls, make sure you’ve read How to Avoid a False Rape Accusation. A few simple precautions can save you a lot of trouble on the off chance that things go south.

This piece will be continued in part 3.