Traits Women Find Attractive [PART 4: False flags]

In the previous parts of this series, I talked about the traits that women find attractive.

In this final part of the series, I want to talk about some false flags – traits that men think are attractive to women but aren’t actually attractive to women.

1) Money and career success

A lot of men think that money makes them attractive. This is something they are taught by TV, movies, and even by their family.

They think if only they were rich, they would have women clamoring to be with them.

It is true that a lot of women want to be with rich men because they give them a comfortable lifestyle (money, gifts, vacations, housing, etc.), but that does not mean that these women are sexually attracted to them for their money.

There are tons of beta males with shitty looks and personalities who end up getting married to a decent looking woman because they have a nice career. I know tons of my ex-girlfriends and fuckbuddies who married some dork with a job and degree later.

What happens to these guys? In the long run, they get a dead bedroom because the woman is not attracted to them.

Women can and do make calculated decisions to date/marry men who have money and career success, but it is almost like a business decision. There is no sexual attraction involved.

Money does not create genuine sexual desire in women.

This is why guys who lead with their wallets end up having to climb through endless hoops (X number of dates, diamond size, expensive dinner dates, etc.) and are subjected to endless rules (“I don’t do anal”, “we must split the housework”, “you must do X to get a blowjob”, etc.).

There is no genuine sexual desire so the women want to maximize the monetary and emotional elements they get out of the relationship while doing the minimum they can do for the man sexually (because having sex with someone you are unattracted to is a chore).

On the other hand, when a woman has genuine sexual desire for you, all rules will disappear and she will go out of her way to sleep with you.

I was fucking women even when I had no money because they wanted to sleep with me because they were attracted to me. I even had some of them pay for dates (I was dead broke).

Repeat after me: Money does not create genuine attraction in women. It does make women who are unattracted to me try to use me for my money. This is why I must never lead with my wallet.

2) Gym strength

Women do not give a fuck how much you can lift. They do not care about your squat, bench press, deadlift, or whatever else.

MEN care about these numbers. Your big deadlift is impressive to other men. Not women.

Women only care about your physique. They like veins, abs, big chest, jawline, etc.

If the goal is attracting more women, the last thing you want to do is get the fat powerlifter body just to enable you to lift more weight. Train like a bodybuilder and don’t get fat (your stomach should be flat).

3) Wokeness

Some guys think that being a feminist and repeating woke talking points will make women more attracted to them.

After all, you are not the “evil” guy all the girls are always complaining about.

They all want a guy who treats them as equals and respects them and is sweet and lovely and in touch with his feminine side right? WRONG.

You will never weasel your way into a woman’s bed by being woke simply because women do not respect men with no strength to state their true beliefs.

The only truly woke men are limp wristed dorks who command no respect or admiration.

She sleeps with the alpha male who does what he wants and then complains about him to her work male friend.

“Boo hoo if only all guys were like you…”

And the woke chump gets zero sexual attention and can’t figure out why no women want him even though he’s “the perfect guy” (in reality he is the perfect girlfriend).

4) Being Loud / Center of Attention

This one is probably more relevant for the younger guys but in every group, there is at least 1 guy who is constantly trying to be the loud center of attention.

It comes from the fact that we are all taught from childhood that we should always be “leaders”. Some people take it too literally.

It is one thing to be the center of attention, and another to seem like you always want to be the center of attention.

The latter makes you look extremely insecure and low value to both the group and any women observing you. It makes you look as if you are trying to overreach your actual status i.e. non-socially calibrated.

Ideally you should know how to handle people as they are. If someone is too loud, you should be normal and stable. Their loudness makes them look bad not you.

The more stable and confident you seem in your own self (sign of high status), the more attractive you are. The more you try to force yourself to become the center of attention by being loud/aggressive (sign of low status), the less attractive you are.

And that’s all for this series!

See you in the next piece.

– Harsh Strongman