Should You Marry a Woman Falsely Accusing You of Rape?

Someone reached out to me asking me this question.

This is similar to a case our tax/law firm handled recently and I’m going to give you the same advice our legal team gave to the client.

And we’re not the only one who will tell you what I’m telling you in this post. I’ve heard the exact same advice from my friend and colleague Amish Aggarwala as well (Central Government Counsel and Disputes Lawyer at the Supreme Court of India).

Read: How to Protect Yourself as a Man in a Divorce – Guest post by Amish Aggarwala

In India, and perhaps in other parts of the world, an ex-girlfriend will sometimes falsely accuse her ex-boyfriend of rape (“false promise to marry”) to try to get him to marry her.

Often the boy’s family will also try to pressurize the guy into marrying the girl because it saves them the hassles and public embarrassment/shame. Sounds crazy but seen it more often than you think.

Here is what I have to say: DO NOT AGREE TO ANY MARRIAGE UNDER LEGAL DURESS.

Look, if you catch a rape case, you can still get bail and secure an acquittal in a couple years. It’s not pleasant but in all probability you will be acquitted if you are innocent.

On the other hand, if you agree to get married, then these malicious women end up with far more power over you.

For example, she can now file criminal cases (like dowry, domestic abuse, criminal breach of trust, etc.) on not just you but also your parents and other family members.

She can try to secure alimony and maintenance out of you even though you could just have been married for a few months or a year.

This means that she can send your parents to jail, claim legal residence in your house, and try and secure (usually a third of) your income as her maintenance.

By marrying a false rape accuser, you are essentially inviting MORE legal complications in your life than if you just fight out the false rape case itself.

Marrying a false accuser seems like the easy way out, except that it really isn’t.

You are adding more problems to your life because if a woman has already falsely accused you of rape, there is very little chance that a marriage with her is going to succeed.

In other words, it is only a matter of time till more cases on you and your family are filed post marriage, and that problem is far more expensive and complicated than one false rape case.

DO NOT DO IT.

YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED.

– Harsh Strongman

P.S. You should grab a copy of my book How to Avoid a False Rape Accusation because it can save your life. False rape cases are not fun, and there are measures you can take to protect yourself. Many of them are as simple as sending her a pleasant text message in the morning, but you still need to know them to be able to do them.